Rethinking Change: A New Approach to Healing
The Story That Shapes Your Life—And How It Can Change
We all live with two stories. There’s the one we know—the version made up of life events, experiences, and the identity we share with the world. And then there’s the one we don’t realize is there—a hidden story, shaped by past experiences, that quietly influences how we feel, react, and experience life.
Sometimes, this deeper story works against us, creating patterns of anxiety, stress, or self-doubt that seem impossible to shake. Even when we know we’re safe or that we shouldn’t worry, our emotions tell a different story. A person who has experienced loss might struggle to feel connected, even when surrounded by love. Someone who grew up in chaos might find it hard to relax, even in calm moments. These responses aren’t just thoughts—they’re deeply embedded patterns, written into the nervous system.
Traditional approaches often categorize these experiences under labels like anxiety or depression. But while those labels describe broad struggles, they don’t capture the unique ways these patterns shape your life—whether it’s a constant sense of dread, spirals of overthinking, or feelings of disconnection.
That’s why I take a different approach. Instead of applying generic solutions, I focus on uncovering and shifting the specific emotional patterns affecting you. Using science-informed methods, we gently update these patterns at their root—without reliving the past or forcing new thoughts.
And here’s the powerful part: when the deeper story changes, so does your experience of reality. The stress, worry, or heaviness that once felt automatic starts to fade, replaced by a natural sense of calm and clarity.
Many people notice a meaningful shift after just one session. Sessions are designed to be clear, effective, and focused on rapid emotional transformation. (You can read more about what to expect below, or explore real-life case studies showing how this works in practice.)
How Do We Work With the Hidden Story?
Rewriting the hidden story begins with understanding how it’s structured. Unlike the narratives we consciously share, this story isn’t a neat sequence of events—it’s a web of emotional imprints, beliefs, and sensations. Each fragment carries the weight of past experiences, shaped by interpretations that once protected us but now keep us stuck.
To create meaningful change, we don’t need to relive the past—we simply need to update the emotional lessons it left behind. Here’s how:
Step 1: Pinpoint the Focus
We begin by identifying a specific feeling, thought, or challenge that’s troubling you right now. In just a few moments, we can trace it back to its emotional roots.
Step 2: Uncover the Emotional Roots
I’ll gently guide you to recognize key moments, patterns, or emotionally charged memories connected to the issue. There’s no need to relive painful details—acknowledging them is enough.
Step 3: Rewrite the Story
Using science-informed techniques, we’ll reset the emotional charge of these fragments, allowing old patterns to fade naturally. But we don’t stop there. Together, we’ll identify new perspectives that feel true and empowering—ones that reshape how you see yourself and the world. Once we find those that resonate, I’ll guide you through a process to embed them deeply, so they become second nature.
Each piece of work we do leads to real, noticeable shifts—whether it’s clarity, calm, or freedom from an old struggle. The process is light, effective, and empowering, allowing change to happen naturally and without effort.
Why This Approach Works
By addressing the hidden story at its roots, we don’t just manage symptoms—we create deep, lasting shifts that ripple through every part of your life.
The ability to change quickly isn’t about willpower—it’s about working with the brain’s natural ability to shift. Rather than relying on traditional methods alone, I use science-informed techniques designed to work with the brain’s natural plasticity. By applying these methods in innovative ways, I can recognize and maximize the precise moments when the brain is most open to change.
This means we’re not just talking about your challenges—we’re creating shifts that feel effortless, natural, and lasting. If you're curious about how this works in practice, you can explore real-life case studies to see the kinds of changes people have experienced.
If you're interested in the science behind how this works, you can explore more in the science section to see how it compares to traditional approaches like CBT.